“Let Your Love Be Known”
Preached May 25, 2025
There is a pop psychology concept known as love languages. The premise is that we all communicate love, giving or receiving, in five different ways. This is based on a book by Gary Chapman called “The Five Love Languages.” And so these five ways we give and receive love are: Through words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gift giving, and physical touch. I may have mentioned those in the order that I show love. I primarily show and receive love through my words. Through compliments, words of encouragement, and the such. This doesn’t mean that I don’t also show love through giving gifts or hugs - just what comes most naturally to me first.
Over the years, I have found this to be a helpful tool not just for my marriage but for all relationships. For example: I am not a “flowers” person. I do recognize when I receive flowers though, that the person giving them, that’s how they may show love. So I appreciate the gesture. Meanwhile, my preschooler is a “flowers” person. Nothing lights up her face like being given flowers. So I have found myself buying bouquets at the grocery store or picking dandelions even…a way to show her that I love her, using one of her love languages.
From my spouse, my children, friends and more - I try and learn how different people give and receive love most naturally. Both so I can show them my love and I can appreciate how they are showing or telling me that I am loved in return.
Like all personality tests and tools like Enneagram and Myers Briggs, they can be helpful to become more self-aware, to work on being your best self, and to aid your relationships and mutual understanding of other people. And, like all personality tools, I take them with a grain of salt because we’re all more complex beings that can be summarized in one of five or 9 or however many categories.
Still - I bring up the love languages today because I want us to consider how we show love - specifically, how we show love to God
Because our relationship with God requires showing love, acting on love, being committed to that love just as much as any other relationship we have does. We all know it’s one thing to say you feel love toward something or someone - and another thing to be committed to that love and sharing and showing it daily in your actions, thoughts, and words.
So - how do we show we love Jesus?
In this week’s Gospel reading from John, Jesus says, “Those who love me will keep my word.”
Well - that’s pretty simple! Jesus basically tells you his love language...well, kinda. What does Jesus mean by “his word”? There have been arguments about this in Christian circles for quite some time. Does Jesus mean all of the Bible? A book that didn’t exist yet when Jesus spoke these words? Does he mean the Law - Something Jesus expounded upon, challenged, interpreted? Does he mean The Sermon on the Mount? Which commandments, exactly, Jesus?
I think, sometimes, we make things more complicated than they need to be. I want to offer a simple interpretation to what Jesus says when he refers to his Word in today’s Scripture reading...basically, the words he was saying right before he said “those who love me will keep my word.”
Just several verses before Jesus says, “those who love me will keep my word” - Jesus says, “I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
In the context of this passage, Jesus had just washed the disciples’ feet and was sitting down at the table with them, sharing with them his final teachings before his betrayal, death, and resurrection. His final teaching to his disciples before he goes to the cross?: “love one another.”
It is by keeping this commandment that we show we have love for God - it’s how we let God know that we love God. We show love to and for God, by showing love to and for one another. Those who love God will keep God’s word and love one another. That sounds a lot like what Jesus identifies as the two greatest commandments, a summary of all the Law and Prophets:
Love God.
Love your neighbor as yourself.
The thing about these two commandments is that they’re hardly two seperate commandments at all - they’re kinda like opposite sides of the same coin. John Wesley, the founder of the Methodist movement wrote: “Solitary religion is not to be found there. ‘Holy Solitaries’ is a phrase no more consistent with the gospel than Holy Adulterers. The gospel of Christ knows of no religion, but social; no holiness but social holiness. Faith working by love, is the length and breadth and depth and height of Christian perfection.” Often this quotation is summarized to be said, “There is no holiness but social holiness.”
So what does this, concretely, mean? Now, bear with me as we work through this together. I know many of you have heard me preach on this before - and I’m going to keep on preaching on it - because it’s that important.
We as Christians are called to holiness - and holiness is nothing but living a life shaped by love of God and love of neighbor. So we are called to live lives of holiness. And we know we do this by having a personal relationship with God: by praying, by reading the Bible, by spending time with God, by working on our personal piety. We also know that we are called to be part of a worshipping Community: to share the sacraments, to sing hymns, to pray with and for one another. This is how we not only show love of God, but how we cultivate and strengthen love of God.
So if we love God…we keep God’s Word, we love our neighbor. So just as we are called to piety and worship, we are called to charity and justice. We are called to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, free the captive. We are also called to create systems in which there are less hungry, less naked, and less fellow humans in captivity.
When I teach confirmation, or even adult Bible Study, and we talk about this tenet of Wesleyan theology, I draw a cross and put each of these areas in one quadrant: personal piety, communal worship, personal charity, communal justice. When I teach confirmation, I don’t just draw it on a board, I make a big cross on the ground - with tape or with chalk, I’ve even drawn it in the snow, and I ask the youth to stand in the quadrant in which they feel they most naturally show their love for God. I always have youth standing in all four sections. I affirm that each of us is going to have a different love language for God - where we spend the most time, how we feel most comfortable sharing our love for God. I then also offer a challenge: we cannot only stay in our own comfortable quadrant. We are called to the wholeness of a holy life - to live out our love for God and neighbor in all the ways available to us.
And when we live into one area of our discipleship, it will naturally and intrinsically, push us toward other areas as we grow.
Love for God in our souls pushes us out to the world so that we take care of the least of these and we welcome the immigrant, and we care for the vulnerable, and we visit the sick - this is the work that cultivates social holiness - and while we do this, we learn more about God. We see the face of God in others. We learn more about God’s marvelous creation. We are able to see more of who God is in each other - and this causes us to love God even more - back to personal piety...which pushes us back into the world...where we learn to love God more...and back and forth, and back and forth, a rhythm of love, a pendulum of prayer and good works, a tide of piety and mercy.
I can’t help but think of Jesus after his resurrection asking Peter on the beach: “Do you love me?” “Yes Lord, you know I love you!” “Then feed my sheep.”
Our love of God is not something we can keep to ourselves. When we truly love God, we are sent outwards. And when we go into the world with the love of God in our souls, in our hearts, in our hands, our eyes, our ears - we see God in the least of these, we hear God’s voice in the voices of our neighbors and the marginalized...and we return to God in love.
This rhythm, this love of God and love of neighbor is what I believe Jesus meant when he said that those who love him will keep his word.
And so this morning and this week, as we leave this place, I’d invite you to think about your love language - how do you show love to others? How do you receive love? How do you know that someone loves you? How do you show that you love your loved ones? Work on letting your love in all your relationships be known.
And then, ask yourself, how are you showing your love for God? How are you sharing and showing God’s love for and with your neighbor?
Love is what we’re primarily all about as Christians - or at least it’s what we should be all about - so make your love known - for God & for neighbor.
Amen.
And then, ask yourself, how are you showing your love for God? How are you sharing and showing God’s love for and with your neighbor?
Love is what we’re primarily all about as Christians - or at least it’s what we should be all about - so make your love known - for God & for neighbor.
Amen.